When I find myself in a situation where I notice I am defensive, or a sense of need or wanting something from someone else comes up, here is the antidote that I use:
- Love yourself completely. Scan your body with a glow, a pink or gold one. Smile internally at every cell of your body.
- Be completely detached. No desire, agenda or need. Just let go and have faith in emptiness or the ultimate good of the Universe.
- Extend unconditional love and non judgmental love to the individual across from you. Relish how light and less burdened it is for you to do this.